I've been trying my best to avoid and ignore this, or blame it on other issues, but I just can't any more.
Lee needs extra help in school. If I were to press a diagnosis, my guess would be something akin to ADD (not ADHD; he's not hyperactive). Lee just has a really hard time focusing on a task, especially when there's other things going on. Preschool has been very good for him, and he loves it. But he is sadly behind the other students in his class. I am trying not to compare him or rush him or judge him. He is still four years old after all! But, I am trying to get prepared for his future and figure out how to guide and teach him now, while I still can.
Lee's current preschool teacher and I have been talking about how to help him, and she is really good at keeping him in smaller groups whenever she can. That helps, but not as much as I wish it could. Ideally, Lee could spend the majority of his learning time one on one with a teacher. But in this world's public education system--not going to happen. I've considered homeschooling, but the social environment has been so good for him, that I can't go that route (yet). Lee's teacher even mentioned testing for special education, which might be able to get him into a more secluded program, or setting up an IEP (individual education plan). Those are definite possibilities.
If I had a lot of money, perhaps I could hire a tutor. But since I don't, the ultimate responsibility has--of course, just as it should--fallen back on me. I've been reading to Lee and letting him color when he wants and other "normal" things, but I need to take deeper measures now. Yesterday I invested some money and time and made a bunch of flash cards and materials that I can use with Lee during our practice time. We've now made a goal to practice/do "homework" for half an hour every day before any TV time.
The result so far--he was focused and calm through our whole practice time. We worked yesterday and today, and I did notice some good improvement on number recognition and tracing his own hand. He listened and followed instructions so well and I am very proud of him. He was able to do all the things his teacher set as "goals" already. Of course, that's with me, in the quiet of our own home, and not in his busy classroom. I have been taking notes each day so I can show them to Lee's teacher. So, I have high hopes that with a little extra attention and time, he'll be able to catch up and excel very soon. Good work, Lee!
(still, any ideas, suggestions, or even just encouragement would be welcome!)